I once experienced an impactful incident which involved a girlfriend and a Starbucks order. In the courtship phase of this relationship, I would bring coffee to said girl when we met at church. It was my ‘subtle’ way of expressing interest in her. When I asked her what she wanted from Starbucks, she’d always give me a simple order. I assumed she didn’t want to ask for something too expensive and didn’t think twice about it. Her order stayed the…
I was doing a Bible study the other day and ran across a question about how we should treat other people. As I started to write ‘love and respect others the same way that Jesus loves and respects me’, something struck me. I don’t believe that Jesus respects me. While I know that Jesus loves me, I don’t believe that love translates into respect. I assume that He sees me more like a parent sees a young child. That’s an incredible…
I tend to mix together my desire for intimacy with my worth. That’s dangerous. Intimacy is something that’s meant to be shared between two people and not earned for the sake of increasing my self-worth. The core of this problem is that I think I need to earn intimacy with another person. It’s very natural for me to believe that if I want something then I have to work for it and earn it. That’s not exactly a bad idea…