Wasteland Kings

In the first blog of this series, we talked about finding hope in the struggle against pornography and I want to continue that discussion in this blog. Most people who labor under the weight of porn hope to eventually experience victory and peace through gaining greater will power and discipline. From my experience, and talking with other guys in similar situations, probably one out of a thousand guys will be able to experience real freedom from porn independently.

For most of us the problem of porn is too much for us to handle, but thankfully we still have plenty of hope. That hope comes from the resources at our disposal and those include the all-powerful God who loves us.

It takes a great deal of humility to admit that we can’t experience victory on our own and that we need those resources. That humility is key because we need it to take the practical steps required to experience victory over porn. Those steps aren’t always fun and they go directly against our natural tendency towards self-reliance.

Two of the most important and humbling steps are installing accountability software and having daily quiet times.

Accountability Software

 I installed accountability software about 18 months ago and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. Since then, I’ve installed it on every computer, my iPhone, and my iPad. It’s important to point out that my software, Covenant Eyes, filters the content I look at along with reporting my browser history to my accountability partner.

Having a filter on my computer can be really frustrating and annoying, but I can assure you that it’s absolutely worth it. The filter has blocked normal articles or websites more than a few times and this does frustrate me. This frustration is more than worth it though because of what I get in return.

For one, I get the peace of mind that comes from knowing that a porn site is no longer a click away. I also get a constant reminder that I fight an important battle everyday. The fight against porn does get easier over time, but it never ends because I’ll never lose my desire for sex.

Having accountability software reminds me every time that I turn on the computer that I face a deadly enemy that wants to devour my heart. The software helps set the tone for the rest of my struggle against porn because it represents an important action of humility and sacrifice. I have to admit every day that I have a weakness in my armor and I need to give up some of my autonomy to reinforce that point.

It’s really important to remember that fighting back against porn is a daily struggle and that we need help everyday. I commonly catch myself thinking that I’ve got my addiction under control and those prideful thoughts usually lead to the hardest times of temptation. In order to keep from drowning in temptation, I have to humble myself everyday and seek God’s presence.

Daily Quiet Times

Reading the Bible on a daily basis may not seem like an important practice but I’ve found that it’s actually really important. Being in the Word gives us a chance to step back from the insanity of our daily lives and rest in God; this rest decreases my stress and subsequently my desire for porn. It also gives me a very clear opportunity to develop my personal relationship with God because it’s time spent only with Him.

My quiet times bring that personal relationship to the forefront of my attention. It’s incredibly easy to forget about my relationship with God throughout the day.I also rarely feel that He’s with me in my fight against porn and being reminded of that always gives me confidence.

Having an attitude and mindset that is founded upon the truth that I have a personal relationship with God reminds me of where I need to go when I’m struggling. Along with that, it gives me a powerful source of strength when I’m in the darkest moments of temptation, struggle, or shame. While I can’t experience victory over porn on my own strength, I know where to go to get the strength that I need.

That means from the beginning of the day to when I lay down to go sleep at night, I have a hope that goes far beyond my understanding. I would never have found that hope if I hadn’t humbled myself and admitted that I can’t experience victory on my own. Regardless of your sin struggle, do you think it would help to humble yourself and admit that you can’t defeat it without God’s help?

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