Wasteland Kings

Tag: worth

I’ve talked with a few people recently about the pressure to perform. Many of us feel a pressure to achieve and maintain a certain standard or accomplish a goal set by someone else. While it can be a good thing to push ourselves, this performance perspective is slowly draining the life from us. When my head comes off the pillow in the morning, one of my first thoughts is ‘don’t waste your day’. In case you’re wondering, that’s not the…

The other day I realized my confidence has grown in the last few months. It hasn’t grown beyond imagining, but I feel a measurable difference in my daily confidence. I looked back over the last few months and concluded my experience at the writer’s conference helped make this happen. The rejection of my book and the people I met built up and strengthened the confidence I feel on a daily basis. I say the rejection helped because it shined light…

I tend to mix together my desire for intimacy with my worth. That’s dangerous. Intimacy is something that’s meant to be shared between two people and not earned for the sake of increasing my self-worth. The core of this problem is that I think I need to earn intimacy with another person. It’s very natural for me to believe that if I want something then I have to work for it and earn it. That’s not exactly a bad idea…

I am the best Pharisee in the room. God help me. It’s not a small problem. You might think it impossible for a kind, personable, and generous person to be a Pharisee. In reality, it’s very possible. He wrote this blog. I call myself a Pharisee because I am obsessed with my performance and how I stack up against everyone else. I constantly evaluate myself and others based on things like intelligence, accomplishments, and clothes. I easily fall into the…