Wasteland Kings

Archive: April 2014

Dear Single Girls, Single guys need some help. I know that all guys need help and that we can’ t live without the incredible women in our lives. I’m talking about a specific topic here. Single guys need help in the area of talking to single girls. I’m not asking for girls to start tutoring or training single guys in the art of conversation. Most guys probably wouldn’t go for that. I am asking that you offer us a helping hand…

I’ve got problems. I struggled with an addiction to pornography for years. I found freedom from that struggle but I still label myself a recovering addict. These days, I struggle with co-dependency and people pleasing. I’ve made some great strides in those fights, but they remain a daily part of my life. I don’t really have it all together. Thankfully, being perfect and having it all together isn’t my job. Not because I don’t want the job, but because Christ…

Talking to girls is really hard. Guys and girls are fundamentally different and they communicate in very different ways. Phillip Zimbardo uses the word phosphorescent to describe the communication from girls. In other words, they can be kind of confusing. That said, Zimbardo doesn’t think a girl’s phosphorescence accounts for the whole problem. He believes guys have a harder time talking to girls than past generations of men. In his presentation called ‘The Demise of Guys’, Zimbardo argues that guys…

Many of us wonder what God is up to in our season of singleness. Most single Christians understand the basics of the singleness problem for believers. We know God loves us, we know that we want to get married, but we don’t completely understand why God hasn’t provided marriage for us yet. For many Christians, singleness feels like an eternal Christmas Eve in which we feel stuck in constant expectation and waiting. We know that God loves us and that…

We underestimate the power of distractions. One time in Colorado, I took a rafting trip on the Royal Gorge with some friends. I had what you might call an exciting time. Because of the way I’m made-up physically, I’m a little top-heavy. From the moment I saw the rafts I only thought one thing: I’m going to fall out of that raft. I stood on the bank of the river and listened to the kind instructor explain the ‘do’s and…

Accountability is really really hard. I still remember the first few times my small group leader unsuccessfully asked the group to confess their sins for the week. A deathly silence followed these attempts as we all stared at each other and wondered if any of us would break the Mexican standoff and admit they did bad things that week. My leader would then try to break the ice with his sins that week and even that didn’t work. None of…

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